Thursday, February 28, 2013

I Was Once A Perfect Mother ...

... Before I had a child. Before ever becoming pregnant or having a child, I knew everything there was to know about parenting?

-Schedule? You mean you book your life around your kid's day?
-Pick them up when they are crying? Girl, they need to toughen up, let them cry.
-Formula? Why aren't your breast feeding? It isn't hard.
-Throwing a tantrum in public? I'd take that kid right out of there and ...
-Stay home? You need to get out more.
-Watching TV, psh, my kid will never know what TV or a phone is until they are 18.
-She hits you? Hit her back!
-Stay home? I am going to take my kid any and everywhere (and she will never, ever cry!)

Yea, so then I became a mom and all of the sudden, little mom know it all knew nothing about parenting! Imagine that ... like most things, you never quite know what you are getting into until you are in it. While the above statements may not have all come out of my mouth, I probably thought most of them at one point or another.

I know that I judged other mothers who chose not to breast feed because it was too hard. And then I found myself almost making a similar choice. I couldn't believe that anyone would put their kid in front of a TV and walk away. My kid watches "Dora the Explorer" now and I get to eat breakfast.

My point it, I was judgey. I judged most mothers who have gone before me. And then I became one and waved my white flag! To all those who I have judged or thought these salacious thoughts, please accept my humble apology. I am now a part of your elite group of moms who have all been there and done that.

Frankly, the only place I enjoy taking my daughter is Babies R Us. I mean, if she throws a fit there, who can judge if we are in a baby store?? But a screaming fit while two friends are trying to catch up over coffee? I feel guilty and bad for ruining their quiet and relaxing morning.

As I adjust an navigate my way through daily life with an infant, I am challenged each and every day to do my best and be my best and to not judge, compare or condemn anyone else. Because there I am, with the iPhone trying to calm my crazy kid.


  1. I've been there... And at times, I still am. And I know I'm not a mother yet, but it's hard not to judge... anyone, for that matter.

    Keep inspiring me, J! ;)

  2. LOL this is funny. Before children I was the rude, "didn't get it" friend. My SIL had kids and I was like, "let's go out!" or "um, what do you want me to do with them?" "do they always eat crayons?" "what's that smell!". I was pretty horrible until I had my own. Now I'm completely repentant.